T.D. Jakes joined Oprah Winfrey for part two of
"Oprah's Lifeclass" to impart his wisdom on how families can begin
the process of healing fractured relationships, and cast down their negative
histories and fulfill their destinies.
During "Oprah's Lifeclass" that aired on the OWN
network Sunday night, Jakes uncovered the root causes of sibling rivalries and
brought Oprah to tears as he explained that some parents are not capable of
giving an outpouring of love to their children, because they have a "pint-sized
capacity" and cannot fill those who have a "10-gallon capacity to
love."
Jakes said many 10-gallon people are born into families that
only have pint-sized capacities, but added they need to understand that many
times the people who don't seem to be giving enough are, in fact,
"sincerely giving you all that they have, but it doesn't fill you up,
because you are bigger than that."
Oprah said Jakes' comments brought her to tears because she
was reflecting on her relationship with her mother, and shared that his words
clearly described what she has felt, as a 10-gallon person, throughout most of
her life.
Jakes also homed in on sibling rivalry and the joyous
moments that families miss out on when someone feels that a family member has
been disloyal to them.
He emphasized that although loyalty is an important quality
to him, too, siblings should never "turn small things into mountains,
because when the mountain comes (illness and death), they won't have the
strength to climb," because they'll be attempting to cope by themselves,
absent of the support from their family.
The art of family, Jakes noted, is to "end up on the
same side."Many times people hold onto their hurt feelings and use them
as an excuse to not show up for their families, to which Jakes said people must
stop showing their scars and wounds as trophies, and "have the wisdom to
have conflict resolution."
He continued, "It takes more strength to forgive than
to be vengeful." And added that when adults stop speaking to their parents
or cease caring for them, in reality what they're doing is showing, by example,
the way they expect their children to treat them.
According to Jakes, parents who are raising their children
must teach them forgiveness, and that starts by forgiving their parents of past
hurts, wounds and mistakes. He explained that parents must have the humility to
heal their relationships, because they're teaching their children a valuable
life lesson.
"When you hold onto your history, you do it at the
expense of your destiny," he said. "Cast down the idols of your
history, so that you can be available for God."
Thousands of people filled the American Airlines Center in
Dallas to be part of "Oprah's Lifeclass" at MegaFest with T.D. Jakes
last month. And more than 75,000 people attended Jakes' MegaFest festival that
featured four of his most popular conferences: ManPower, Woman Thou Art Loosed,
MegaYouth and MegaKidz.
This was followed by numerous headliners including Joel and
Victoria Osteen, who hosted an empowerment session; Oscar and Grammy winner,
Jennifer Hudson, who headlined the Woman of Purpose concert and participated in
the first International Faith and Family Film Festival; Steve Harvey,
"Babyface" Edmonds, and Cedric "the Entertainer" and Niecy
Nash who hosted the "Just
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